~How Others View Me As A Communicator~

~How Others View Me As a Communicator~

After getting both my husband and a co-workers to evaluate me this week as a communicator, I was shocked to discover that my husband score indicated that I am people-oriented, mild when it comes to communication anxiety, and significant on the verbal aggressiveness scale. My co-worker rated me as being time- oriented, low on communication anxiety scale, and low on the verbal aggressiveness scale.

One of the things that surprised me the most is the fact that my husband feels as though I am a little more verbal aggressive than I do. I have to admit that I communicate with him more aggressively than I do with others because I am more comfortable with him and I now that he understand me and where I am coming from. I was also surprised to learn that my co-worker feels as though I am time-oriented. I do not want my co-workers to feel as though I do not have time for them.

Two other insights that I learned about communication this week is that stereotyping may be positive, negative, or neutral and could possibly lead to negative and/or bad communication. The second thing is self-esteem. As the text book mentions, people that have high self esteem are more confident in their interpersonal relationships because they believe that they are more likely to believe that being friendly will cause others to be friendly in return. 

Two things that I have learned from this experience to do better is to treat my husband just as good as I treat the people that I work with and have to communicate in a positive manner. I also plan on having more time for my employees. I do know that there are things that I have to get accomplished throughout the day. I plan on making time out of my schedule that is strictly dedicated for listing to my employees.

~Communicating Differently~

On a day to day basis I find myself communicating differently according to the people who are in my surroundings. Diversity is all around us. We are all different and like to do different things as well as communicate differently.

When I am with my coworkers, I communicate in a professional manner. I use proper grammar, less facial expressions and I am very attentive to listening to the things that other may have to say. I could you could say that I am an active listener.

When I communicate with people that are older that I am, I always say yes ma'am or yes sir. I am very respectful and will never raise my voice. On the contrary, I am also very respectful to all but will raise my voice at a person that is around my age group or younger to get my point across.

When I am with my family and friends, I am more relaxed, use slang words when communicating and my facial expressions may tell it all. My husband would say that I am a passive listeners. He says that  I hear what I want to hear.

Based on the things that I have learned this week there are a few strategies that I can use to communicate more effectively.

1. I should be a better listener to everyone. Everyone wants to feel important and valued. If being an active listener works at work, I know that it will work with my family and friends. Being a people- oriented listener would be great when communicating with my family and friends.

2. The platinum rule is essential. When we treat others the way they want to be treated, everyone wins. Hopefully the same thing would be done with you.

3. Masking is importnat. Some times we have to let people know that regardless of what is being said or done, we can act accordingly. We should not show others the way we truly feel with our facial expressions. 

This week I have learned life long skills that will take me a long way. The things that has touched me the most is that we have to take the time to see things the way others may see them. We can  not be to quick to judges others until we have had the opportunity to see thing the way it may be according to others.  

Silent versus Sound Communication

The Nanny

The Nanny is a television episode that has been around for quite a while. However, I decided to pay it a little attention to completed this assignment. There were three main characters on the show, the nanny who is  a flirty lady (Fran), the butler and Mr. Sheffeld. 

When I watched the show on mute, Fran appeared to be a mean lady who used lots of facial expressions. She frowned a lot and used her hands to demonstrate things. She looked a little silly and moved around a lot.The butler appeared to be frustrated. He continued to look confused each time Fran said something or moved around. 

Mr. Sheffeld appeared to be calm and smiled a lot.After watching the show with the volume, I started to become interested. Fran turned out to be really cool and funny. even though she made facial expressions, most of the time the expressions were made to demonstrate the way she felt. She turned out to be nicer when the volume was up. She still is silly but she is more bubbly. She loves to use her hands when she communicates. 

The butler was more sarcastic than I imagined. He said little things that would conclude that Fran was a tad bit frustrating. Every time she talked, he would say something that attacked her character in a funny way.

I could tell that Fran was a little flirty when Mr. Sheffeld came around. Both with the volume and on mute, she continued to blush and used her hands to touch Mr. Sheffeld.
If I had been watching a show that I am more aware of. I would have known the personalities of the characters and even on mute, I would know whether or not the characters were playful or serious. 

If you have never watched "The House of Pain", try this exercise watching that show. I would love to hear the things that you all would have to say about Curtis both before and after.

~A Competent Communicator~

 
                                                                          

When I think of a person who communicates competently, I think of my mother.

*She listens to every word that people have to say. When a person feels like they are capable of nothing, she makes them feel like a million dollars.

*She look people in the eyes and gives them the vibe that she is paying attention to everything that they are saying. If things are sad, she uses nonverbal cues to demonstrate her empathy.

*She remains calm in stressful situations and avoids conflict.

I would like to take on all of my mothers communication skills. She always make time for people and listens to them until they walk away. Some time people only need someone to listen too. I am guilty of listening to people while continuing to perform task or not even look the person in the eyes. I really need to do better. A good communicator involves more than using words. A good communicator uses nonverbal cues and is patient when listening to others.

~Professional Hopes and Goals~

One hope that I have when working with children and families from diverse backgrounds is that all teachers are prepared with the essential tools to make everyday learning a success. I want the children  to feel comfortable learning in an environment where they are accepted. I also hope that parent feel welcomed and know that we are there to assist them in all ways possible.

One goal that I would like to set for the early childhood field that is related to diversity, social justice, and equity is to train all caregivers that are employed in my center on the importance of all three. The society is growing larger and larger each day. Luckily we are in a profession where people look up to us. If all teachers (caregivers) are trained on equity, and diversity, they may have a different outlook on people.

I hope that you all have enjoyed this experience as much as I have. It was great learning about the uniqueness of the people who make up our society.
Please take all that you have learned to improve on equity and social justice in you careers. I have enjoyed collaborating with you all and I wish you nothing but the best in all that you set forth to accomplish throughout your experience at Walden University and throughout life.

~Welcoming Families Around the World~

• The name of “my” family’s country of origin is Africa

I work at a child development center and the child's fist day is today. 

Five ways that l have  prepare myself to be culturally responsive towards this family is to:

1) Have books for the child to read that demonstrates their culture.

2) Have an employee there to assist me that is fluent in their language.

3) Have to read books and research websites that will provide me with more information about their family's culture.

4)Ask members of the same culture about specific things that they like and are interested in.

5) Have things provided that makes them feel welcoming and reminds them of their home land.

I hope by doing the above, both the child and his/her family will feel comfortable knowing that I value them and their culture. I want them to know that even though they are in an unfamiliar place, they can make it their home. 

~The Personal Side of Bias, Prejudice, and Oppression~

Throughout this class, I often spoke about things that have happened to me. I am going to shift it around a little and discuss something that happened to someone that I know in regards to bias.

A young gentlemen who display feminine characters worked as a manager in a center. He is very nice, outgoing, and is eager to learn.  Other managers were treating him inappropriately and displayed micro-aggressions against him. That made it hard for him to be successful in the work place. The staff members that he is responsible for started to add in on the mumbling of how he is different. This caused serious damage to him emotionally. Later, I was informed that he tried to take his life.

After three weeks of medical treatment, he was reassigned to a different location.  He was judged incorrectly based on his characteristics and his self identity.

Equity was diminished because he was not given the same opportunities as others. He was looked down on because to some, he is different. He wears his clothes in a professional manner, his nails are clean and appealing to the eyes and he speaks with a soft voice. Is this a reason to believe that he is incapable of fulfilling the mission?

I was very empathetic for him. I could only imagine how he could have felt. This made me outraged that we as humans can be so cruel to one another not realizing that we all have differences.  I knew that something had to be done to recondition the situation.

Thankfully I was the one that he was reassigned to. I did verbalize that the individual that caused the problem should be spoken to. She needs to understand that we are should all be treated equally regardless of our differences.  If it happened once then chances it will happen again to someone else. People need to know that their actions and comments can be very abusive and hurt others. It can cause lifelong affects as well as deaths.